My mom quit her job and expected me to support her when I was 16. It was like the work and expense of suddenly having a baby - I had to buy her all sorts of food, entertain her, clean up all her messes, etc because she simply didn’t feel like adulting anymore. She had no reason not to work other than the fact that she kept getting fired for being a slacker. I had to drop out of high school to get a job.
At 20 I had enough and moved out without warning - which I could do since our apartment was in her name only (even though I paid the rent!). She immediately broke the lease and moved in with the first guy who would take care of her. She ended up abusing the poor guy while I finally had enough time/money to make a stable life for myself. I cut her out of my life completely after she got bored with her boyfriend and was making jokes bout moving back in with me.
My life is awesome! I went to college while working full time, and eventually graduated. Got a nice career going and have more money than I need. It’s been difficult doing everything alone, but my life is much more stable. I’ll never be homeless again, never have to go without power because someone else drank the money away, never skip meals so someone else can eat, never have to put my life on hold because of someone else’s selfishness. It took a long time to realize how bad my baseline was because she trained me my whole life to enable her. Sometimes I hear through the grapevine about all the lies she spreads about me, but it doesn’t matter since anyone who would take her side isn’t someone I’d want to associate with.
My mom quit her job and expected me to support her when I was 16. It was like the work and expense of suddenly having a baby - I had to buy her all sorts of food, entertain her, clean up all her messes, etc because she simply didn’t feel like adulting anymore. She had no reason not to work other than the fact that she kept getting fired for being a slacker. I had to drop out of high school to get a job.
At 20 I had enough and moved out without warning - which I could do since our apartment was in her name only (even though I paid the rent!). She immediately broke the lease and moved in with the first guy who would take care of her. She ended up abusing the poor guy while I finally had enough time/money to make a stable life for myself. I cut her out of my life completely after she got bored with her boyfriend and was making jokes bout moving back in with me.
My life is awesome! I went to college while working full time, and eventually graduated. Got a nice career going and have more money than I need. It’s been difficult doing everything alone, but my life is much more stable. I’ll never be homeless again, never have to go without power because someone else drank the money away, never skip meals so someone else can eat, never have to put my life on hold because of someone else’s selfishness. It took a long time to realize how bad my baseline was because she trained me my whole life to enable her. Sometimes I hear through the grapevine about all the lies she spreads about me, but it doesn’t matter since anyone who would take her side isn’t someone I’d want to associate with.