I am quite good at talking to people. But I want to step up my flirting game. So what are some relatively “safe” ways to flirt?

    • Carrolade@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      3 days ago

      The other people in the thread provided some solid advice that included some loose examples. It’s a tough thing to go into detail on without writing a book half full of caveats though. I don’t want to try recommending a method or anything, because there kinda is no method to it. That I can think of anyway, that will be any sort of consistent.

        • Carrolade@lemmy.worldEnglish
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          3 days ago

          I wouldn’t sweat it too much. It’s the sort of thing everyone needs to learn by practicing, that’s how everybody who is any good at it got there.

          If it worries you, maybe start with innocuous compliments, things like that whatever looks cute, you have a pretty voice, stuff like that. Don’t have to press, you’re not trying to get anywhere or anything, just build up some starter confidence in expressing yourself. Like the other guys said, if someone doesn’t seem receptive, don’t sweat it, just back off. Nothing wrong with a compliment.

          It’s a trial and error thing, though, and you’ll develop your own style over time.

          • ☂️-@lemmy.ml
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            3 days ago

            that’s something i feel i “get” already.

            what would you think step 2 would be from that?

            asking for a friend, of course.

            • Carrolade@lemmy.worldEnglish
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              3 days ago

              Then I’d just go with the examples the other guys gave, it’s good stuff, and they’re probably more current than I am. Banter is fun, you’re doing really well if you’re both laughing. I liked that shoulder squeeze litmus test thing one guy mentioned, that’s a good move. Anything you can back off from pretty easily like that without feeling like a dick is fine.

              We’re all being vague intentionally, though, nobody can give a script for it. Any script is a bad script, it all just varies too much. Back to what I originally said, this isn’t really answerable in a forum discussion, not well anyway. Everything has to be either really vague, or risk being wrong for you. And I’m not some self help guru willing to take that risk of giving advice that very well might not work, just so I can sell a book or get youtube views or something.