Oh, they trust the government too, or would say so if asked. Kinda “work with the system and the system works with you” trust, firm belief in not making waves or drawing undue attention to yourself. And, well, it works for upper middle class native white people in EU, if you can look away or give your silent consent to whatever is happening.

Big companies and the government are familiar 🙄, known 😐 and thus safe 😑.

Aww, thank you. 😘

I accidentally told my 50+ friend what shibari is. No, she didn’t know, she cancelled going to a planned event that would have included a lecture.

She also claims she didn’t know before what “bondage” was, and isn’t in the habit of lying to me. So yay for being a good influence, I guess?

My messenger needs to be one my 70+ parents, who trust big companies and mistrust anything too small, or different, or “extreme”, are willing to use. Getting them to install Signal so we could still have our family group chat after I deleted WhatsApp was a major win. Scanning each others’ QR codes, having to go through some process when they change phones…? Yeah, they would’ve been scared of being “put on a list” and wouldn’t have gone through the technical stuff even for me.

Yeah, personal preferences and feelings are what they are, no debating that.

You really don’t need to wash the infuser though. Even less than a french press. It doesn’t have that coil thing that may trap gunk, or leave scratches on the inside of the glass, just stainless steel.

And you don’t really have to pay attention to the amount of tea. Bag of tea, infuser, point bag at infuser and shake until the infuser is somewhere over bottom-covered but under half-full. Yes, you -can- get way more precise than that, but you don’t have to. And just like you learn if you want one or two bags, or steep it for a short or long time, eventually you just know.

Teabags don’t even come with their own holder. So you have to be aware of that cooling, coalescing gunk on a saucer the whole time you sip in your cup. A cold used teabag is one of the most unpleasant things in a middle-class household, whereas cold tea leaves are just wet plant stuff.

Also jin jun mei alone is 100% worth it, and the variety of oolongs doubly so.

Going loose leaf gives you access to better and more interesting teas though. And having a no-frills basic tea infuser that you’ll rinse afterwards, and a bag of loose leaf tea, at home and/or work isn’t really more inconvenient than bags.

Depends on the kind of party, it might not take a lot of money. But it does take time and energy.

I was a fan of the musical long before the movie, and the movie was meh. The celebrity performances ranged from yuck to average, and the attempts at added humor were way off.

But I can’t see how it could be translated into a movie much better (I missed Growltiger’s last stand, and felt Beautiful Ghosts detracted from Memory as the emotional peak). Dancers in tights would look ridiculous (and we have the 1998 “movie” for that), and any more realistic cats would remove what little remains of the physicality on film.

So no issues with the maligned CGI, would watch again, no match for the adorably ridiculous stage show.

Seriously, it’s not that hard to find.

Got excited enthusing about watches I thought are cool. Very long and deraily for the original topic. But in summary I think there’s a factor to the dance of advanced mechanics, so to say, and the deliberate absence of contemporary smart functions. A “soul”, if you will. Someone showing you their watch can be like them telling you their favourite Linux distro, it says a lot about a person, and just having one suggests they may be “my people”. 😅

Though Rolexes are imho fugly often gaudy pieces that do have in-house movements but it clearly isn’t their main selling point. Please don’t use them as an example. I don’t know what the Linux equivalent would be, ChromeOS?

Somehow this stuck with me, and while you are correct, in any conversation about menses I’d probably want to include the people who eg. use contraceptive methods that temporarily stop them, and people whose periods are so irregular they simply don’t know if the next one is coming or not (my group). Personally I’d also want to include and hear from people who used to menstruate but no longer do, or who are likely to start soon.

In statistics afaik they tend to use “women of fertile age”, which makes sense for those purposes, to limit it to one clear-cut group for clarity. In gynecology for individual patients I don’t think any term is used, just a list of properties (“G0P0 menarche 12 cycle 28 duration 5 normal flow, last period 1.1.2025”) and then you move on to the issue.

And that’s for periods, a relatively clear-cut thing. Then you get to “people who had the female/male experience when growing up”, or “people who perform the traditionally female/male role in a relationship” or the like.

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Is anyone into watches at the age when rich men try to pick them up? I could be easily impressed by a watch now (a personalised G-Shock $50-300, any diapason $500-2k, an enthusiastic watch geek explaining their Jaeger-Lecoultre…), but not part of the target demographic.

Any reason to celebrate in a way all participants/affected find enjoyable is a good reason. Not very intelligent aliens.

I also liked the idea of New Year’s bingo, things you’d enjoy doing the next year and then seeing if you get bingo/s.

But nah. In 2025 I’m going to start a company that will cheaply generate near-unlimited clean energy from greenhouse gases, pollutants, and (only discarded) plastics. I will install it for free and provide the energy at something like 10% of oil/coal equivalent. By threatening to turn it off, I’ll extort those in power to stop wars (yup, within the year) and obey the experts on how to improve the wellbeing of the bottom 10-50% in individual countries and globally.

Do you often find yourself in discussions where the trans-inclusivity/exclusivity of the term is important to know?

Because whenever I use “men, guys” or any other such term, whether it includes trans people doesn’t even cross my mind. Like the discussions if we should welcome “guy friends” at our girls’ game and gossip nights, or if I’m being too naive around “men”. Talking about “males” like an alien species would be weird and mildly offensive. (Mildly because the Finnish word “uros” can imply admiration for a man’s masculinity.)

If you wanted a term for potential partners you could possibly reproduce with, none of the “female, woman, male, man” terms by itself would do, because (even personally known) infertility for various reasons exists.

My answer to any “maybe glue back together” question is some homemade kintsugi hack. Sand the outer edges of both pieces to widen the “surface groove”, mix some gold-ish/silver-ish/copper-ish/etc powder with some resin adhesive, glue.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eO9CnS-NqO8

Idling at sc, spamming heal all as regen allowed. Good times.

Met my partner in a MUD, kind of a text-based pre-MMO. He was tank, I was healer, it was meant to be.

In general, talking with people who are doing a thing you are interested in too. The way I see it, maybe 10% of people are “friend” potential, 1% “good friend” potential, and .1% partner potential. You’ll want to look in populations where you have something in common with the people, and thus the odds a bit higher.

As a relative newcomer to the privacy community, I don’t remember constantly hearing about things being overreacting. What I do remember hearing is to think about your threat model and behaving accordingly, to not over-sacrifice convenience for things that aren’t a priority to you.