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Cake day: June 5th, 2023

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  • I love most names. I know that sounds stupid, but I have a weird fascination with names. I love meeting people with names I haven’t heard before, it makes me really happy. I also love to introduce my friends to people with fake names, like I might introduce two people to each other as Telemachus Entwhistle and Victoria Saint Watercress, then walk away and let them figure out their real names. Sometimes I use people’s full names in fake anger, but make up a middle name, like Aloysius or Jezebel, or make up a name that their already full first name might be short for.

    One of my favorite jokes in all of TV is the running gag on Psych where the main character introduces his friend and partner, Gus, by a different name in every episode, like Lavender Gumes or Galileo Humpkins.I really don’t know why I find it so amusing, but I love it.

    I think some of my actual favorite names, like ones I might really name a kid, would be like Ruth, Miles, Olivia, Matthew, James, Joe, Sorrel, Elan, Evan, Lyric, Bear, Atticus, and Cynthia.


  • I know you didn’t mean it this way, but the implication that there are “breeds” of people can be very offensive, as it compares someone’s lineage to domesticated animals. Racists have long used the term “breed” to describe disenfranchised minority groups in an intentionally derogatory manner. Culture and heritage are baked into our identities, and they are very dear to many people’s hearts and vital to our sense of self, which is why you’re getting the responses that you are.

    It’s also not scientifically accurate, because breeds are bred. They are not naturally occurring variations in a species, they are bred for a purpose, by humans, through artificial selection. It’s why there are breeds of dogs, cats, and horses, but we don’t normally use that word for starfish or rhinos.

    Humans don’t have breeds because we are not bred with intention in the way that dogs are. We are products of our environment, our culture, and our history. Race is a construct, and the closest thing we have is ethnicity, which is essentially just our ancestry’s geographical origins.











  • This gets a little tricky though, because other people’s reactions aren’t always a good metric. If multiple people are telling you something, then it’s almost certainly pretty pertinent to listen. If only one person is telling you something, it’s probably worthwhile to reflect on that in most cases, but you may also want more feedback before you go too deep down that rabbit hole. But this all depends on the people you’re around, what kind of criticism/feedback you’re receiving, and what’s behind the other person’s intent for telling you.

    Sometimes we end up in relationships that involve gaslighting and emotional abuse, and it’s not always obvious to us. Sometimes, we don’t have a strong sense of self and we look outside of ourselves for validation more often than not. Sometimes we interact with people whose internal experience is wildly different from our own.

    IMO, it’s important to work on strengthening our egos when they are fragile, and to form our own foundational sense of self from which we can build atop with feedback from others.