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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • Depending on what you’re looking for “girly” could fit.

    Ex. If a macho man is a “manly man” (which I don’t think is entirely accurate because I think the concept of machismo is much more complex than that), then a “girly girl” would kind of be the equivalent?

    Alternately, “femme” can be used to mean kind of the same thing but more respectfully since “girly” has a rather childish connotation. “Ultra femme” or “High femme” can be used to describe someone that strives for or is the peak of feminity but then… defining what that means is a whole other thing that’s probably just as complex as defining Macho/ Machismo.

    Not sure if this helps but I wish you luck in your search for the word.






  • I use “tired” for any physical stuff that affects my mood, so if I didn’t sleep, or I’m sick, or on my period, those are the days I’m most likely to mark as “tired”

    I can’t remember why I started tracking (I think I was just curious) but I’m going on four years now and it helps a ton with trends and feeling like I’m not just lying to myself when I want to say something like “I’ve been feeling tired a lot lately”

    Like, before tracking, I don’t think I was even comfortable saying I experience depressive episodes because I just straight up didn’t believe it was that bad, but with real data I’m able to see my “happy” levels declining month to month.

    And “tired” is a useful metric in this context because it denotes days that “tiredness” was interceding on my happiness.

    For example, let’s say I didn’t get a lot of sleep. I struggled through the work day. But I went to see a movie with friends in the evening. If I spent a solid portion of my day not aware or caring that I had been tired, I would mark that day as “happy”

    But if I was tired in the morning, went to work, came home, lumped around for a few hours and went straight to bed, I’d mark that as “tired” and if over 50% of my month is days like that, I would want to take action.

    Because I’ve had months with 80%+ happy days, so if I’m noticing my happy levels falling (Ie. 60%, 50%, 40%) I want to do something about it. I want to be doing counselling again, or I want to be going to the gym more, or seeing my friends more often.

    So I guess for me, tracking helps make mood signals more obvious?

    And on a daily level, I think it’s also useful to do that little bit of self-reflection. Like, "yeah, there were some sucky things that happened today, but was it day “bad”? Or was it a good day with bad parts?

    I’d advocate for anyone to try it, with whatever words/ moods make sense to you.

    Thanks for asking too! It’s fun to get to talk about it with someone.


  • I track my mood in a journal and each day and I’ve given myself four options for my overall mood was for the day. The options are:

    Happy Okay Tired Bad

    Perhaps counterintuitively, I mark the majority of my days as “happy” for the very reason you’ve described.

    The vast majority of days, I’m not “happy” by most people’s standards. I am content. But I think it’s actually quite useful to call contentedness happiness.

    For me, marking a day as anything other than “happy” requires some negativity to enter and for it to persist long enough that it spoils the overall contentedness.

    For example, even if I wake up exhausted, depressed and otherwise miserable, if I take a nice long shower, have a cuddle with my husband and watch a show I love, I might still be able to salvage that day from “bad” to “okay”

    I think it’s important that people don’t treat mood as a fixed immovable state. It’s almost always a signal that should be acted upon.