I’m not you, I try.

What do you dislike about the concept of free mental health to help the things that clearly bother you?

Not just not open to feedback, but not open to the feedback that he himself solicited!

How is offering to help you find a licensed mental health professional for free trying to piss you off?

And, more importantly, you keep asking “how do you do X, Y Z?” And people keep taking time to help you out!

I mean, I guess misery at least is easy?

It just seems so wild. This person seems so unhappy but has zero desire to do anything, even when we try to find them free fucking therapy! “Oh no, I might talk to someone who could maybe help me!”

Yeah. It just bothers me because you can see so many different people have taken the time to articulate solid suggestions, try to be friendly etc and are, at best, met with a “no.” Like, even them complaining about their birthday, so many good people chimed in just to be kind and instead of a thank you or any kind words it’s just this petulant “nooooooooo” attitude, except for literally one post where the commenter posits we’re all insignificant and going to die.

It’s the best and worst of the internet in a single person.

Oh, just get into some of them. It’s usually the same pattern of complaining about their life, people offer help, “not like that.”

Eg: https://lemmy.world/comment/14115909

Or: https://lemmy.world/comment/14235653

Or: https://lemmy.world/comment/14385972

Or: https://lemmy.world/comment/13620704

Or: https://lemmy.world/comment/14434981

Or: https://lemmy.world/post/23747812

I think the thing that bugs me is that so many people have taken the time to help in good faith to get a “naw.” And the cycle repeats with another whine/question until there’s enough pushback, then a couple anodyne questions, then back to the same sad self pity party.

Check OP’s history, it’s all complaints/whines as questions.

If you try one of the many free therapy options likely available to you, maybe you’ll be able to experience it!

As I’ve offered before, if you give me a region, I’ll happily find you a free mental health service.

I do love that the “popooh, are you offended bro?” Folks are rhe ones who are also driven into hystrionics by the word cisgender.

I stubbed my toe yesterday; clearly Canada has already collapsed.

I had multiple involuntary physical reactions to that sentence.

You win.

Yes but if we can’t spell divide I’m not sure I’d hold out hope for nuanced or accurate political commentary.

Okay, if you’re not American odds are much better there’s helpful services! If you give me a province/region/country, I’ll happily look into what mental health services are available.

Last time you asked for help, folks suggested therapy. Have you looked into any of the local free options? My offer of looking for you is still on the table, just let me know what state/province etc!

Oh yeah the first ones were pretty bad for that. But once they figured “anti shock” iirc they were good enough to play from my jacket pocket while walking around.

Mp3s were absolutely a game changer. I bizzarely had a cd player that could handle regular cds and cds with MP3s and spent a couple days copying over a few cds worth of mp3s before I spent a year abroad.

And for all that, I bet you also appreciate the shit out of having all music all the time in all the places.

Maybe fully appreciate isn’t quite the right phrase but there is something to having been forced to do things a worse way that helps you remain constantly grateful for the improvement.

Eg…I went from walkmen to cds. Holy God that was so much better, even if the first few players were pretty bad. I still chuckle when I think about my effectively unlimited access to almost all the music I can imagine vs fast forwarding to get to the song I wanted, if I was lucky enough to have the right tape on hand.

Oddly, off the top of my head, I’m not sure the most recent generation of younger adults (say, 18-25ish, whatever the “basically grew up w smartphones” generation is) have had any similar groundbreaking changes beyond AI which uhhh, isn’t super popular here. Some stuff has improved (graphics etc) but off the top of my head I can’t think of something that’s really solved a constant annoyance. (I imagine fully autonomous vehicles would be another similar tech leap.

Ehhhhhh, I think it’s a little of column A and a little of column B.

I think the biggest tik tok contributor is people now hear about ADHD and decide because they get bored in schoo sometimes they must have it etc. (As someone who struggles not to chew through their own gums as a form of fidgeting, I find this really irritating.) But let’s put that aside because I don’t think that’s what you’re asking about. I’ll also ignore the fact that more people are walking into therapists having read all the symptoms and knowing essentially what to say to receive a “diagnosis.”

To the actual question, I do think TikTok/smartphones/internet are definitely rewiring our brains in ways that mirror a lot of symptoms of ADD/ADHD. There’s a depressingly good book about it called the Shallows but the basic thesis is that the financial incentives of the internet are geared to keep you clicking and moving through things (so you see more new ads) which habituated people to very short term impulses/reward structures. In other words, impulse control and trouble focusing long term.

Life is pretty awesome, I’m lucky enough to enjoy most days. Work’s engaging, after work I play sports with friends 3 days a week, other weekdays are organized to fit in chores or other friends. And weekends are for bigger plans and/or chores, plus another soccer game or two with friends.

I’ve seen your posts and comments, they’re all the same. “Everyone else is a dumb, I don’t like anything, I’m just going to jerk it in my room.”

Sadly, it’s not an uncommon personality.

If you want an NYE you don’t have to spend alone and sad, you can take steps to remedy it. If you choose not to, that’s on you.

Why are you angry?

Just pointing out this is a situation of your own making and is completely solvable.