A new Whovian, how nice!

Gotta be honest, I don’t get that either.

What exactly was it you expected?

Also why we endlessly do the hip wiggle to avoid going to the loo until it hurts.

“Just do [X]” does not compute, whether X is “yoga”, “sports”, “[specific diet]”, “the laundry”, or simply “it”. It is never simply “just”. The inability to “just” start doing a thing (especially without any immediate reward) is one of the central symptoms of ADHD and if you say “just do [X]”, you’re essentially saying “just don’t have ADHD”.

ADHD also doesn’t mean you are/were bad in school. Not by a long shot.

Won’t that just make people smoke more to get their nicotine hit?

will start on Sunday, January 19

“Starting on Sunday we won’t hate you as much anymore. Until then, fuck you.”

I do appreciate the thought and, although a cursory look at what’s available in online shops around here seems more expensive than I’m comfortable with, I will at least consider your advice next time I have the mental energy. Thank you :)

True.

Doesn’t even need to be directions.

“You know, [place], over in [major part of city]?”

“Oh yeah, haha, [major part of city]. (Discretely take out phone because I have no idea where anything is in this city that I have lived in for 20 years)”

Thank you, Great Circle of Obviosity, for guiding us in these uncertain times.

Well yes, that’s what’s happening in the brain. I was more talking about the reason why kids might feel the need to passively consume for hours in the first place.

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Again, I don’t agree that it is and I don’t know how the notion that the drugs’ effect isn’t permanent is relevant. But okay, what is ADHD instead of a chemical imbalance?

You said that the effect of drugs doesn’t last after stopping them. I don’t know what that has to do with anything and I’m asking you to elaborate.

In most cases, I guess. So? What are we arguing here? That ADHD can’t be “cured”? Sure. But it can be managed and some people profit from learning how to self-regulate, possibly because their life circumstances are beneficial, others need the store-bought help.

I’m not a medical professional but based on what I’ve read (and experienced), I don’t agree that it is. Both usually work best in tandem.

Yes. “Just” a misbalance in dopamine levels in the brain. Dopamine reuptake is too quick, there’s too little dopamine available, so the brain’s reward centre doesn’t activate properly. That’s pretty much what they’re saying. Drugs can inhibit the reuptake, making more dopamine available longer.

Wall of text incoming, sorry, I get anxious trying to explain myself and I ramble 😅

My specific situation is that I have serious trouble organising myself (planning and acting on plans) due to mental health and I am chronically exhausted. I’m on disability because of these and some other issues.

I can’t find affordable loose-leaf tea in any store nearby. Ordering something I need regularly online is difficult because I need to remember that I need to do it and then also do it. I know it sounds weird to someone who doesn’t have that problem but it’s just far easier to just go to one supermarket, once a week, and get all the stuff that I’m going to need (and even that isn’t easy when you’re exhausted simply from existing). Add to that decision fatigue where I get thoroughly overwhelmed by the sheer number of options when online shopping - I actually like having just a handful of options because it makes deciding a lot less exhausting. (I also wouldn’t know where to get affordable tea online that isn’t amazon and I’m trying to avoid that but that’s a different topic)

It’s not the manipulation of tea bags that’s difficult for me, I fortunately don’t have problems using my hands other than being clumsy because I don’t pay attention.

Tea bags:

• get tea bags
• put tea bags in thermos
• pour water in thermos
• throw tea bags out
• drink tea
• wash cup
• done

I do actually own a tea infuser ball and a reusable tea bag and there’s more steps involved, including having to clean them. I used each a couple of times and then I just couldn’t do it anymore because the thought of going through these steps was overwhelming.

• measure out tea
• try not to spill half the tea all over the counter causing more work (!)
• put tea bag in thermos
• pour water in thermos
• take out tea bag
• clean tea leaves out of tea bag, thoroughly, because tea leaves cling to the bag
• clean the bag of tea residue
• hang bag up to dry

What ends up happening is that I just want to drink my tea and even the maybe 5 minutes it would take to clean the thing are too much. So I leave the used tea bag lying somewhere, I forget that I have to clean it, and it takes me days to remember - worst case scenario is the tea starts getting mouldy in the bag. Even if I remember, I can’t work up the energy to clean the thing so I postpone it (and don’t drink tea in the meantime).

Sidenote: I have a Huel subscription because if that package didn’t arrive like magic on my doorstep every two months, I regularly wouldn’t eat anything but toast for days because everything else is more than two steps and thus too much.

I know it’s not like anyone is asking me to run a marathon and I feel silly just typing all this. I’m the first person in line to chastise myself because I just have to pull myself together a bit and stop being lazy and get over myself and I have the hardest time accepting that I am ill. If tea bags ceased to exist tomorrow, I suppose I could deal. As it is, they are a small thing making one small act a little easier, adding to a bunch of other small things that are inconsequential on their own but make small acts a little easier so I can feel like half a person.

Maybe for it manifesting. There are certainly very lucky people who grow up and live in environments that just so happen to not clash with them and who never even think they may have a neurodivergence.