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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • I’ve always gotten them for free, but through health insurance. I believe there are some resources available to help uninsured people to get them for free, but the added hassle often deters people.

    No worries about “flue”, I understood what you meant, and that’s the primary goal of language. There’s definitely some other English words with regional spelling variations (grey/gray, tire/tyre, color/colour), and many other confusing, similarly spelled words (lose/loose, bowl/bowel, descent/decent 😉). Have you heard about spelling bees? Spelling vs. pronunciation in English is so inconsistent that it’s one of few languages where holding them makes much sense. I bet they’d be pretty silly to hold in German!



  • I’m in one of the more liberal areas of the US, and as far as I’m aware, the local hospitals recommend covid & flu shots for everyone in the fall, not just vulnerable populations. I’ve never had any trouble getting covid/flu shots in the fall, and they used to even come to our office to offer flu shots to everyone. I think by this time of year though, they may only be recommended for vulnerable populations due to supply issues.

    I have a slightly off topic question of my own: is “flue” a regional spelling? I have always seen it as “flu”, and searching for “flu vs flue” is just giving me results like “cold vs flu”.


  • Yeah, I used to want to text a lot before meeting face to face, but have learned that almost always means I start to “fill in the blanks” and the person I meet never matches up with my expectations. By meeting face to face quickly, I don’t have a chance to build those expectations and am unlikely to feel “catfished” by anything other than blantant lies on their profile.

    I think the bigger problem is that the apps really amplify the sense of “there’s always more fish in the sea.” So if that first date wasn’t full of sparks, people often prefer to see what other options are out there, rather than going on second dates to see if anything develops.

    With the online approach, I know I’m very guilty of focusing on the other person’s “flaws”, and deciding they’re deal breakers. With people I meet via offline methods, we generally get to know each other a bit more organically and end up having multiple unofficial “dates” before the first official date.

    My last actual date was over a year ago, with someone I met offline through mutual friends. There was definitely an initial spark, but it fizzled almost as quickly (mostly my own discomfort with emotional intimacy). We’re actually still friends though, and hang out with each other more often than I hang out with the friend who introduced us. If we had met via dating apps, I highly doubt we would still be friends because we just wouldn’t have any reason to cross paths organically.









  • I never really had trouble getting dates on Tinder, etc., but very few of those led to second dates. Of the people I’ve dated that I met without the help of apps, I probably would’ve “swiped left” on most of them. As another user said, general human interaction is my current route, focusing my energy on social interactions where I can meet people the old fashioned way: mostly friends of friends. That can range from get togethers at someone’s house, happy hours, general meetup groups, volunteering, hobbies and/or classes.