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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I work in participation sports, and agree with OP. I’ve seen people running in a long distance triathlon (which means they’ve already swum and biked a long distance) who, if I saw them in a different context, I’d not have thought them fit. Usually women, not men. Fat and cardiovascularly fit >skinny and idle. And I’ve seen really strong fat guys, maybe that’s not as perfect as lean & strong but is it worse than thin and weak?

    It’s not the usual arrangement (fit and fat) but skinny and unfit is pretty common.

    I don’t make fitness assumptions anymore, about people within some range, obviously there is a point where this isn’t true. I haven’t ever been fat and do not think I’d be one of those people (if I am in shape it shows in my visual shape) but plump fit people do exist.



  • The Bicycle. My God I how hated to ride a bike. So freaking uncomfortable to sit on, hurts my lady parts and sweaty and you have to pedal so hard to make it move, I always would rather walk. Just walk like we are made to do.

    I rode an electric bike at a ‘rodeo’ the city sponsored to promote their e-bike raffle and oh wow what fun, so comfortable the seat, so easy to pedal and it moves right along. I did not win a voucher but spent the money on one and I love it, it’s my daily commuter vehicle, and I let people ride it and so many have the same transformation.


  • Agreed. I am so glad my kids are grown, but I can still remember personally walking to school so early. It’s nonsense. Also here if they were sensible they’d run school through the summer (when it’s too hot to do much) and give the kids long winter and spring breaks instead (when there is more going on here). But nobody can accuse the last 20 years of Florida’s government of being sensible. Not since Lawton Chiles have we had an actual good governor. Locally it’s more hit & miss but state level it’s been a string of misses.








  • We keep DST for more months than ST so I think more people like it more.

    I kinda think it runs backwards, making the sun set even earlier in the clock day during winter. So much more dispiriting to come home in the dark than to go to work in the dark.

    My argument for ending it is that you can’t make days longer or shorter by moving the clock around, but I think we should just keep adding weeks onto DST and taking them away from ST until eventually it’s just DST. But settling on either scheme would be ok, better than switching back and forth.



  • No.

    Guys, correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think y’all are really trying to sleep with all your friends, right? You do have friends who are like sisters not people you can see as partners?

    I don’t have a best friend who isn’t my husband but am friends with straight men who aren’t my husband. My old boss comes over sometimes, we hang out, we are absolutely not into each other in ‘that way’. The brother of my ex, same. Just good friends.

    Also, if you’ve already established that your boyfriend doesn’t care, why are you asking? If it’s his belief that all guys are absolutely indiscriminate and would always try with any of their friends, maybe ask him if that’s how he feels about all his friends who are women?


  • Oh I was maybe 22, 23, loudly singing along with Elton John as he belted out “love I feel it in my haaaands, I can tell by the things I would do with another maaaan!” when I realized that probably was not something someone would sing back then. It literally had never occurred to me that he could be singing anything else, and it still sounds like that to me.

    Love lies bleeding is the NAME of the song, but I’d never heard it announced or seen it.

    Love lies bleeding in my hands

    Oh it kills me to think about you with another man



  • Mostly I love being physically embodied, I love seeing and feeling, eating, sex, lived being pregnant, I love having a physical body and consciousness.

    What sucks to me is not necessarily physical decline - in general I’ve been able to handle what is thrown at me. I do hate time though. Hate the way we experience it in one direction. Hate the irreversible past that leads to the unavoidable future, it seems to just all be rolling out with no way to change it, every action came from some past action. Not just a big ship to turn, more like it will turn or it won’t but we can’t make anything happen that wasn’t already going to happen. Our present the irreversible past of tomorrow’s unavoidable future.