Tuukka R

I have children and have nothing against someone dating me.

As I consider it okay to date a single parent such as I am, I also consider it okay if at some point a I end up wanting to date someone else who is a single parent as well.

This got me curious! What do you think is an acceptable minimum age for having kids?

He has a child.
He knows what it would mean for the child if he sat years behind bars. That changes the calculation quite a bit!

A loving parent won’t get themself in a jail unless it’s something that benefits the child enough to cover for losing a parent for many years.

Suspended sentences work so that if you trigger the activation of the suspended sentence during the probation time, the whole length of the suspended sentence starts rolling. Therefore, if at 4 years and 11 months of a 5-year probation you do a crime that triggers the activation of your suspended sentence, you sit 7 years. And if you commit the same crime on day 8 of the probation, you still sit the same 7 years.

At least over here in Finland it can also work so that the suspended sentence is only a couple of months for some crimes, but the probation is still 4 years or 6 years or whatever. People often read that “damn, only two months and they are free”, but in reality it means you must spend 5-ish years having to be mindful of not doing any similar-ish, even much less serious, crime or you’ll find yourself sitting behind bars for those two months plus whatever the repeated offence carries.

The search engines will eventually start getting it. For example web.archive.org now clearly has code specifically for archiving Forumverse posts, because they seem to rewrite all usernames to show @web.archive.org as the instance. (Which is super weird, I must say!)

One search engine has aknowledged the existence if the Forumverse. Others are bound to eventually do the same. It might be weird to a crawler that the same content is on a hundred different sites, but it’s easy to code them to “understand” the reason.

PieFed instances’ admins have the option to automatically ban any user accounts that do this if the instance’s admin so wishes. Hopefully the same feature will come to Lemmy soon enough, if it doesn’t have it yet!

Won’t using the search of lemmy.world pretty much solve this? What communities do they not federate? It doesn’t need to have many users for one of them being from .world.

You can remember the usernames of people who do the nuking and avoid posts by them. At least on PieFed you can also write a note about the user to be shown to you next to their nickname over each post and comment they send. Might be possible on Lemmy as well?

What’s unreliable about the search?

Apparently your instance defaults to “All” instead of “Subscribed” as your main view. You can change that in the settings. In case you don’t know how to, here’s a direct link you can open and bookmark: https://lemmy.today/?dataType=Post&listingType=Subscribed&sort=New

I use Voyager, but I use it mostly for PieFed, not Lemmy.