I have a letter one of my Grandma’s friends wrote her after seeing Gone With the Wind. She did the equivalent of “meh” - I was shocked. No idea if this friend was just not impressed with anything or wanted to come across cool. After my shock wore off, I still laugh off and on about.
– I didn’t see the letter until after Grandma died, so I didn’t get to ask about the friend. (Grandma was born around 1910)
My grandma was born in WV 1919. I asked her a lot over the years (she passed in 2015)
Your great grandma may be different… but keep in mind, she’s human. And if she’s anything like my grandma, she will lie, or more charitably have some false recreations of certain memories.
So asking round about questions to get more details about certain things can sometimes get some interesting truths exposed without her realizing it.
Do not point out inconsistencies in an accusing way!!!
Remember not everything is the actual truth, even if she’s being honest. We are human and our memories are swiss cheese on good days. None of us remember everything with 100% accuracy.
Oh, and ask about her favorite music through the years, or favorite foods. Sometimes sounds, tastes l, and smells can trigger memories!
Try to get my prescriptions stockpiled, including hrt for menopause and plan b for my younger cohorts.
He lacks the depth and the warmth
I mean, Kamala is running on policies that would help the little guy. And she might lose to guy who SA’s women and said he could shoot someone in the street.
If she wins and we get a peaceful transfer of power, then I’ll have more faith in your dream.
But right now, it seems like violence is what the masses crave over social reform.
Now I’m realizing, I don’t pronounce the L in those words… Maybe they pronounce it liked mulled?
Ugh, why did I immediately jump to working with pigs? I’m still scarred.
I watched a fairly recent youtube video podcast with a traditional porn actor and an onlyfans performer. The actor (cherie deville) talked about all the control she had, regular testing, and overall safety. The OF performer had none of that and basically described her last on camera act that devolved into SA and extortion. From that, I got the impression there is still some ethical porn out there and a lot that’s not since just anyone can create and push content now.
Devil’s Food cake/cookies. Originally they were Nabisco: https://i.pinimg.com/originals/9b/a0/af/9ba0af2803a08d55bdc523ad21648559.jpg The red and yellow box. These were a wonderful memory from my childhood. Then you could only find Snackwell’s version. They were like 95% of what I remembered, not exact but so close they were still good. The last box I got (in the before times) tasted absolutely terrible and nothing like they used to. Tasted like dryness and absence of sweetness with no chocolate flavor. Texture wrong, everything wrong. Amazon would not accept my review of the new recipe. I may have compared them to the Devil’s butthole. Evidently those are discontinued now. I guess they went the route of making the new recipe so hateful we would celebrate the end of the production.
I’d love to be able to have something that tastes like the original ones though.
It sounds like she is definitely not fat, so you can be truthful and you aren’t looking for a way to tactfully say she is at an unhealthy weight. What it sounds like is happening instead is a bunch of busybodies are just stirring up trouble and trying to undermine her self confidence. If it wasn’t her weight, it would be her clothes or some other body part they would criticize. (for instance they’d claim she had a weird nose or ears, I had a “friend” comment on my how my knees looked weird and knobby one time. They were and are normal knees. My grandma tried to make me feel like there was something wrong with me because my breasts hadn’t come in yet. I was 12. Both of these were people “looking out for me and trying to help” - they were not. They were trying to make themselves feel better at my expense.
You need to make sure she realizes these comments other people are making are not motivated in kindness, even if they are claiming they are. Try to find ways to help her see her worth and to help her ignore the bullying comments by these people.
Because of mainly my grandma, I learned to recognize when these comments were meant to be mean and to not let let them affect my self-esteem. Instead I realized they just made the person saying them look worse.
Occasionally, when they would get a comment in about something, like a big pimple, I would gray rock it and respond with, “yeah, that happens, oh well” and move on. Learning to not give them a reaction also makes it not fun for them after a while and they find other targets or shut up.
Learning to gray rock and not internalize the crap other people are flinging will help a lot. Having someone like you that she can trust to be actually kind and honest will help her reinforce to herself that the other people are just being unkind.
I didn’t go through the whole thing, but spot clicking, found he was still updating it in 2019. 2 sections of links on conspiracy theories. Overall web design circa 1996.
That website alone could be a big red flag for a lot of employers. Although it could have been worse. I didn’t find some stuff I expected to find, but I also stopped looking after about half an hour.
I’m told Top Golf is fun too.
I stared at this way too long wondering what a Cheesy Poof on the sidewalk had to do with coffee.
In my defense, I’m scrolling before going to sleep and my morning coffee has long since worn off.
Did it scare her straight?
Your friend’s situation brings up the question of ownership. Do you actually own a persistent thing if you can’t later sell it and pass ownership to someone else?
I think media companies want to ideally have us think of their products as candy bars, we buy it and consume it. If we want that experience again, we have to buy another. They want us to buy the opportunity to read, look, listen every single time, or buy a pass that gives access for a limited time.
But a lot of us consider media like a personal, well loved library or museum. We buy books and things in order to revisit again and again. We replace or repair if worn out. If it’s one of a kind, we take actions to safeguard it. We search for rare and unique things and acquire from other private collectors if it’s no longer publicly available. The value of our collections increase if the media stops being published and goes out of circulation.
But these entities would rather see everyone’s personally owned copy spontaneously combust just because they didn’t want to sell it anymore. And it’s what they have done to digitally sold and DRM’d media, or by deleting from streaming services while also cutting the creators off from being able distribute independently.
We are at a major crossroads as to what ownership and ongoing availability and access means. Piracy is currently a failsafe until property can be safely bought and protected - for the purchasers.
I’m here and on Mastodon. I really like Mastodon. (I still have my old twitter account, but have not posted or commented for years. I never really used it anyway. Now I use it to see the occasional newsworthy linked tweet since they require a login now to view anything. I’m purposely ignoring its attempt to rebrand)
I still go to old.reddit and lurk on slow news days. But my feed isn’t as robust or interesting as it was before the exodus. It’s still good for historical help on certain topic. So I will keep checking it probably.
But to me it looks like Lemmy and Mastodon are getting slow, steady, but high quality growth overall. I think the fediverse in general may be the saving grace of the internet. It looks to me like the “main stream” internet is becoming one voice, much like Clear Channel taking over and homogenizing the eclectic voices of regional radio.
I’m in a safe-ish area and was told 2 claims in 3 years and they wouldn’t renew my insurance. Been here over 20 years and had one claim 10 years ago.
Had lightning hit and called the insurance directly, they opened a claim number but we ended up not using it. Meaning they paid $0 because it turned out to be a simple fix, it was just scary in the moment at 3am with water gushing out (not into the house). So we just paid the $300 to fix it and they closed the claim.
Two years after that we called when a tree hit the house, went a different route and called the independent agent first, not the insurance company directly and that’s when we learned if we started a claim for the tree damage, they probably wouldn’t renew. Ended up being almost $3000 out of pocket so we can keep the house insured and the mortgage company happy.