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  • frog_brawler@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•I avoid approaching women in public because I believe it's inappropriate. My parents say that it's a necessary skill. Who is right?
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    3 days ago

    There are many women out there who have gone so far as to be on the misandry side of things, and at least the two content creators we’ve named are calling that out. It’s valid and many of their points are solid. But it still seems like the algorithm would use them as a first step towards misogynistic content so it’s had me a little on edge.

    Yep! That’s exactly where I’m coming from. The type of content I’ve been watching recently has naturally shifted a little bit. For a long time, I didn’t use YouTube at all, but during Covid I found out that comic book collectors had a community on YouTube, and for the most part really only watched comic book related videos and fish-keeping / aquascape videos for about 4 years. Recently, (100% out of boredom) I started going back to the gym and have been watching various workout and nutritional videos instead of the comic book stuff that I watched for so long. I still watch videos about fishkeeping and aquascaping. I also watch Neil DeGrasse Tyson’s channel maybe once a month if I get tired of fish, nutrition and workout videos. I recently also came across a channel called “The Why Files” that I enjoy. The content from this channel is pretty similar to Ancient Aliens IMO.

    Somewhere in that mix of aquarium fish, trying to be healthier, physics and historical conspiracy content, YouTube decided to inject Emily W. King. I don’t get it.

  • frog_brawler@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•I avoid approaching women in public because I believe it's inappropriate. My parents say that it's a necessary skill. Who is right?
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    3 days ago

    You are both right and you’re both wrong.

    I’m right in the middle of yours and your parents age. The dating scene is complete shit today compared to when your parents were in it. I don’t believe they’re likely recognizing how different shit is today vs 30-40 years ago.

    I feel like the viewpoint you’re coming from is calculated, safe and fairly accurate for the experiences you’ve likely had in your teen years and early 20’s. More often than not, sticking with what you’ve been doing is going to be considered the more socially graceful, generally appropriate baseline behavior in today’s dating world.

    If you were to take the opposite approach, and approach women in places that you’ve previously considered socially unacceptable, there’s a good chance you’d have some success and a good chance you’d deal with some awkward rejections too.

    If I were you, I’d try putting myself outside of my comfort zone a couple of times, maybe a city two hours away from where you live. If you’re into anime or comics, go to a con and approach women you’d be uncomfortable approaching otherwise. If you’re into reading at all, go to a bookstore and do this. Everyone needs to eat, supposedly the grocery store is fair game.

    Do some social experimenting. Safer to figure out things a bit away from home though if you’re nervous.