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Cake day: July 15th, 2023

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  • ‘I’m gonna stay in my shitty abusive relationship I’ll just cheat on them’ is not a good POV IMHO.

    That’s literally the worst interpretation of the situation.

    A bit similar to you I can’t understand people staying in an abusive relationship - as in I can’t imaging this happening to me. Quite similar as I can’t understand how people can have anorexia. Yet it is indisputable that both exist and people are suffering from them. If you don’t have any cases within your family or acquaintances just look it up there are loads of sources both from psych help sites and just novels.



  • Your reasoning is apparently based on 2 premises: 1. Cheating is the absolute worst thing a human being can do. Abuse is just another Wednesday. 2. Everything is either black or white. There are no grey areas.

    Like most people I tend to give abuse victims a lot of slack. Cheating is bad but in the case of an abuse victim I frankly don’t give a fuck. I’m gonna repeat that: Cheating is bad. In case of abuse however I don’t care.

    I’m not sure if your singular focus on creating comes from being cheated on or from having an unusually high tolerance towards abusers.

    If it’s the former I’m sorry that happened to you. However you need to stop defending abusers.

    If it’s the latter: get bent.






  • Consider the following (IMO common) scenario: One spouse is abusive and does not care about the children. Maybe it’s a malignant narcissist and their family is like property for them.

    The other spouse cares about the children and may be the only one doing any real parenting. Also they suffer the loveless, abusive marriage. At some point they meet someone that cares for them and somehow that leads to cheating before they can escape the marriage.

    In this scenario the children should stay with the cheater and the alimony should not be depending on who cheated. (Both IMO of course).