Yeah it’s the same as “the patriarchy hurts men too”. It is worth pointing out in the sense that if some people aren’t free then no-one is free, but it also feels like we shouldn’t have to and we take the focus away from the ones that are most hurt.

If I say I do X and you say the healthier way is Y, that is a response to what I said and a judgment. If that’s not what it is, you’d need to write it differently.

Yeah the hard part is that there no real established science on this, it’s the wild west online and we’re approaching it slowly with open conversation and trust at an age appropriate level. There’s some risk but that will always be true.

It’ll only be when we look back that we’ll maybe know the right way but maybe not. Like a lot of things, it’s very context dependent… the child, the family, the village, the relationships, the school, etc etc

When you say things like “the healthier way is…” that’s a response to me directly and a judgment. So it’s that kind of thing.

But sure it’s fine, I’m open to the conversation, just not up for defending a decision.

I think you’re assuming a lot from a little. I’m not explaining every thing we do around my home and my kids. I’m explaining 1 thing, it’s not everything.

You are really telling everyone how little you know about parenting. This is what parenting looks like. You parent the kids you have with the skills and tools available. It doesn’t look the same for everyone.

You should probably sit back down.

Yes, it’s part of set them up to succeed not fail. And another part of it is I want them to have a clean break from the outside world, from friendship drama or clinginess, from school stuff, etc. Digital switch off isn’t something people are good at doing by themselves as adults!

My kid has it in their schoolbag, just wears it on the way home and later if they go out. They don’t have to wear it all the time.

Yes there are a multitude of reasons, not least that filtering only does so much and constant surveillance is unrealistic.

None of their friends have phones.

This has been so good for me and my kid. If they are out and feel like they need adult help, we are a watch tap away. If they want to come home early from a friend’s house, send me a code and I’m there. If they want to go to their friend’s house after school, I’m a text away.

We have a no phone until you’re 13 rule so while the watch is a stripped down phone, it’s not a phone so easy for us all to understand, plus it’s already stripped down, no hassle no fuss.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/6skS2Ur2bNG5rsBtuQDJpB

It’s all in this podcast epi but if you don’t want to listen, the name of the prof is there too

And I’ve always loved that mostly the lyrics are not like a lot of music that is just… I love you, I stalk you, I am nothing without you … Puke

And there’s science backing that up!

And this is only seeing what immediately breaks, not following all the fractures.

A lot of this is actually renting v buying.

Ah how did I miss that! Thanks

How much is bird flu contributing? It’s not mentioned as a factor.

I forgot about this one! Brilliant

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life, song from Life of Brian

I agree it’s an amazing film everyone should watch but not perfection. It’s got that awful trope of a girl who is basically just born and she is sexualised.

Still a great film though.