Republicans shouldn’t be allowed to hold office. Every one of their ideas is bad. Someone saying “I’m a republican” should get responses akin to someone saying “I eat paste” or “I kick puppies.” Stupid or cruel, it doesn’t matter, they’re bad people.
“A lot of people will tell me, ‘oh, I wish I could be polyamorous or a relationship anarchist, but I just get too jealous.’ And it’s like, well, I get jealous too. I’m not void of that emotion. I also experience jealousy. If my partner is talking to somebody new, I feel threatened by that. But the way to deal with that is not to make some rule about how your partner is engaging with other people. It’s to figure out what you need to do for yourself,” they say. “It’s really fucking hard, actually.”
This is a good point. It’s one of my peeves when people are like “oh i’m too jealous” and leave it at that. That’s a flaw and time bomb you can work on.
A friend of mine told me about how a guy in her friend group broke up with his girlfriend because he didn’t like that she was dancing at a concert. He just leapt all the way to the idea that she was cheating on him. The insecurity would be laughable if I wasn’t low grade worried he’s going to do violence to a woman in the future. Just chill out, my guy.
In college I was dating someone, and she was like “What would you do if I made out with a guy at a party??” I thought about it for a while, and asked “Are you going to come back to me after? We’ll still be together?”. She was like, “Yeah.” I thought about it some more and went, “OK. So long as you show up for our plans, and are safe, it’s not a problem for me. I want you to be happy.” She didn’t like that answer.
I think the dating apps are all trash, though, and are making everything worse. It creates the illusion that they’re a means to meet people you’ll like, but their incentives are only engagement and subscriptions. Actually introducing you to people you’ll get along with is a secondary concern at best. Some of them have options to specify monogamy or not, but none of them are especially good at it.
Not to my face. But as someone else said, it’s rare for you to be told the rejection reason (for early dating). There are a lot of reasons for this, but part of it is people kind of suck at taking rejection. And on top of that, a significant portion of men are dangerous.
No one wants to risk the man flipping out, spewing cruelty, or worse. A gentler letdown seems safer.
Do you think they realize that they made her look fun (smiling) and him look awful (scowling, wearing a school child backpack, bad haircut) ?
The bar is set REALLY low
There’s a saying “the bar for men is in hell”
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
Meta should be broken up and its leadership barred from working in tech (or politics)
If they were capable of rising above their quagmire of fear and hate, they probably wouldn’t be conservatives. It’s not about facts or consistency. It’s about feelings. Mostly fear of the out-group.
I was at a bar once that the men’s room on the upper floor only had urinals. If you wanted to shit or piss in some privacy, you had to go to the bathroom on the lower floor.
People are weirdly, emotionally, invested in meat. Like it’s part of their identity.
I enjoy the taste of meat but I recognize it’s not good for the environment or the animals. So I avoid eating meat. It’s not a big deal. But for some people they act like you’re going to eat them and bury their bones in an unmarked grave.
This kind of problem falls under “communicating badly and acting smug when misunderstood”. Use parenthesis and the problem goes away.
Most email is short. I don’t see a need to summarize it. Google is run by idiots and assholes.
It went basically like any reasonable person expected it to. Unfortunately many people in the US are unreasonable
Tech companies don’t really give a damn what customers want anymore.
Ed Zitron wrote an article about how leadership is business idiots. They don’t know the products or users but they make decisions and get paid. Long, like everything he writes, but interesting
https://www.wheresyoured.at/the-era-of-the-business-idiot/
Our economy is run by people that don’t participate in it and our tech companies are directed by people that don’t experience the problems they allege to solve for their customers, as the modern executive is no longer a person with demands or responsibilities beyond their allegiance to shareholder value.
no different than taking a bunch of books you bought second-hand and throwing them into a blender.
They didn’t buy the books. They took them without permission.
I just tried “Language Drops” and it was… interesting. It didn’t place me at the right level, so I got a very beginner lesson when I’m closer to intermediate (but definitely not fluent). I’m not sure I liked matching the pictures- the picture for “thank you” could mean different things depending on how you interpret the person’s face and body language- and then I hit the end of the free content for the day. It didn’t get to different tenses or even whole sentences- just basic vocabulary and no verbs. Maybe it ramps up quickly?
Oh yeah. Cars are bad on like every metric.
Socially they isolate people. You don’t interact with anyone when you’re driving except to get angry. The micro interactions you have on the train matter. Seeing people that aren’t just like you, also annoyed that the train is delayed, or just having a nice time with their kids, matters. More than makes up for when other people are annoying.
Economically they hurt. It’s much harder to just pop into an interesting looking shop when you’re cruising along at 40mph. All the space dedicated to parking could be used for other stuff- housing, commerce, communal space, whatever.
They make spaces less safe. Other than the direct impact (no pun intended) of people getting hit by cars, or crashing into stuff, a space that has steady foot traffic is generally safer. If everyone was in their car instead, you’d probably be alone on foot with no one to help if something happened.
They’re bad for the environment. Air pollution, micro plastics, whatever.
Drunk driving is way more dangerous than drunk “riding the train”.
The more non-car options are built out, the better it will be for people who need to drive for whatever reason.
Cars culture is trash and if we ever escape from it, it’s going to take years.
I wonder if it’s exceeded the max length and caused a poorly handled error
I feel like trump could completely destroy the economy and cause the US to split apart and fall into ruin, and people would still think the Republicans are “good for the economy”
I guess it’s like the difference between a parasite that doesn’t kill the host, and one that does. The current breed looks like it’s going to kill the host.
I’m ~40, so I don’t date or spend much time with people in their 20s.
I have seen the occasional profile demanding a certain height, but I just skip on it immediately.
I wonder if it correlates with other attributes? I’m also very left wing so I don’t interact with conservatives much, for example. Maybe “I need a tall man and I’ll say it out loud” happens more there?