You are correct in your history for sure.

My comment was more focused on Lemmy and the reason for occasional outbreaks of nastiness. There is no algorithm in the sense you describe on Lemmy.

I meant to convey that what we see on Lemmy is a property that emerges from human interaction through this medium.

Our conversation may be an example of this. I made a comment that was short, but I thought it was unambiguous. Your reply was thoughtful and topical. But a short text requires you to fill in a lot of context. So you may create a slightly different picture than I intended.

This is a deep cut sci-fi tangent, but it applies. Being pseudonymous and not having durable social reputation makes for different human behaviors.

True Names by Vernor Vinge exceprt

The full story is available with a search on the title and author.

The algorithm in this case is the human ego multiplied by the limits of text communication.

Good sir,

The yoga community is starved for healthy male presence (practice at most studios as a man and you will be a distinct minority).

This community values the same gentle and nurturing approach you have realized that you embody. The fact that you are introspective, respectful and self aware just makes it an even better fit for what you describe.

I cannot think of a place more accepting of individual differences and the persona you describe would be very welcome in those spaces.

I wouldn’t recommend this to someone who was just a pussy-hound, it wouldn’t be welcomed.

Yoga is a sex-positive and body-positive philosophy that doesn’t focus directly on sex usually, but instead helps one become a more rounded person, part of which is healthy relationships that may include physical intimacy.

You seem to understand boundaries and respect. So this suggestion is more about how to build the kind of community where your unique gifts are valued.

I have built many valuable relationships through my practice, most all non-romantic but all very supportive. From that foundation however, my more intimate relationships have improved immensely too.

My two cents

Yeah, I have started to bait and be quite a jerk to people who are arguing in bad faith. But never in a drawn out way. I pop in, call them out for bad faith and jet.

Frankly, that’s how you should deal with argumentative people in real life, tell them you don’t want to play their game and then go find another one.

Thanks!

Their offering seems handy based on the dashboards and tools they provide that gather and automate many features that would otherwise be time consuming.

Looking at how fast the resource demands scaled on my dinky test instance, a successful instance with a decent user base would quickly start costing a few hundred dollars a month. But their costs aren’t super high compared to unmanaged hosting.

I am actually happy this service exists because it means they see a market here.

If you are gung ho about running an instance, the automation and dashboards alone might save enough hassle to make it worth looking into further. Thanks for sharing that info.

You mean a couple of instances?

I would be curious, can you name one of these hosting services? I would like to see what they are offering.

Yes, the concept of the fediverse is very appealing. Lemmy for instance definitely lowers the barrier to entry, but it is still an undertaking to manage an instance. Not everyone who wants to have an instance will have what they need to really do it, be it skills, money, time, dedication.

Oh i didn’t catch the caveat that the host sets it up for you.

I have not done that, but given the ease of setup, I don’t think it would be worth it. Unless they do the administration too which I doubt.

The hard truth is, if you don’t have the skills to set up an instance, you probably don’t have the skills needed to adminstrate it.

Yeah when I got into Lemmy I set up an instance on a Digital Ocean droplet. It was as easy as could be even over two years ago.

I never intended to run it for long and it is long gone now. It was really just so I could play with the database and see how federation really worked.

It only lived two weeks but the storage needs were already skyrocketing so it would have become a non-trivial expense to maintain. Once I got to the limits of the lower cost tier, i wiped it.

Now I am solarpunk 4 life

When the same attempts to set healthy boundaries with that person are ignored repeatedly. Sure, give them a chance to try and adjust their behavior if the relationship is otherwise valuable.

But after you are sure that you have been consistent and clear for a reasonable amount of time and the boundaries still get invaded?

Bye, Felicia.

God, he’s so passive aggressive diplomatically.

Why many word when few good?

This crew also confuses homosexuals with pedophiles, so be careful on Grindr, k?

Jesusussy does not have the same ring does it?

I have grown to understand more and more as life goes on why a man would set himself to the task of cutting the heads off all the parking meters.

Mmmmm, onion-y.

ESP32 can be extremely power efficient but it is a lot of work to throttle them down and get the various sleep modes working right

So, tell me, have you ever seen a grown man naked?

It took the DOT over 20 years to migrate their port of entry truck tracking system from COBOL to Oracle (god help them). That system is much simpler than social security.

Yes, but there is no way I will even try to eat 50 eggs.

So I will distract you all with a musical number

https://youtu.be/dG9tuuznL1Y

Taking out a loan here, boss!