Weird but not bad. More abnormal. Be aware others aren’t waiting, so you may have slim pickings when the time comes

I’m surprised no one is really talking about asexuality. Sexuality is a spectrum. It’s entirely possible and perfectly fine if romantic relationships aren’t as important to you as they are to other people.

I know people who spend entire nights crying and reinforcing their dogs separation anxiety because they can’t find a partner. Others that are much closer to retirement than college who have never had a serious romantic partner and don’t seek one.

You probably shouldn’t prioritize work over personal life. You also don’t have to be in relationships if you don’t want to. I would recommend keeping an open mind and not getting stuck on labels. If partners and relationships aren’t something you think about a lot that’s ok. If not having that bothers you then you might want to seek professional help to assist in figuring out why you’re avoiding relationships.

Also keep in mind that basically every country on the planet heavily encourages marriage and children so get used to skipping all those options on your taxes and benefits.

Noone dies wishing they worked more.

I think it can be long term a suboptimal strategy.

A good relationship can take many years to grow, and it’s very likely that your best partner later in life is one who was there with you during the grind, who knows what it was like before vs after, and has the perspective.

Ideally, who also worked hard on their own career at the same time.

It’s nice to have someone to support you during that period of your life, who remembers the tough times and you can reminisce later once things are better.

My partner and I have been together for 15 years now, and we both very much nostalgia all the time over when life was tougher, but also simpler.

I think if you get a partner later when all the dust us settled, you’ll never quite be able to capture that same type if relationship and you’ll never get quite as close as you could’ve, cuz they simply just weren’t present for that period of your life.

Do what makes you happy

It will likely take some time to find a good partner. I don’t think you can postpone til your late 30s and expect to quickly find a good match. Its fine if you’re happy single - but if you think you’re likely to want something different in the future, it’s good to start working towards that, even just a little, now.

I mean, if that’s what makes you feel fulfilled in life, you do you.

I can say that I’ve spoken with a lot of elderly people looking back on their lives and it’s nearly unanimous that they all say they’d wish they’d spent less time at work and more with their family. I’ve never once heard someone say the opposite.

I’m in my late 30s, so still pretty young, but with a bit more experience than you. I can tell you that your employer will never care about you beyond what financial benefit you bring. They’ll never be there for you when you hit hard times. They’ll never help support you when you need it. They’ll never be your shoulder to cry on or provide you emotional support. That’s what friends and family are for.

Focus on your career if that’s what you want right now, but be mindful of where you might be in 10, 20, or 30 years or where you want to be. Finding a partner in life doesn’t just happen because you’re successful in your career or expect it should. You need to put effort into making that happen. If you don’t know what you want out of life, now is the time to experiment to figure that out. Do you want to be a career-driven person who spends most of their time selling your labor to someone else? Do you want to build a business you own yourself? Do you want to have kids and a family? Do you want to travel and experience a lot of the world?

These are questions only you can answer for yourself. You don’t need to have the answers now, but now is the time to start figuring out those answers.

There’s no right or wrong, just follow your interests. It’s your life. Relationships are not much of a drain I find, but children are more demanding. There are benefits that can make your life better, if you find the right person to pair up with.

nothing at all is wrong with building a career first if that is what you want to do. It is your life after all.

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However, be clear with potential lovers (if any) that you’re not searching to get engaged yet. So people have clean expectation. Moreover, think about your mental well-being first and don’t destroy your health by over working.

Nothing is wrong at all with that. For me I was in a relationship, but everyone started having kids and I didn’t. I realized I didn’t really want kids anyway and pushed on.

Now, I’m a big fan of “relationships aren’t sought after”, that you don’t just go out and find one, but rather it happens by chance, or randomly. So I’d say maybe be open to it if it comes across? And that’s also because the longer you wait the harder it is.

Maybe you are wrong. Unfortunately there is no way to know until after the fact. IF you find a great relationship that lasts that is a great thing. However that is a big if, many many people do, but many others think they have and then separate after some time to great heartache.

Career is something you do to live. If you love your job that can be a bad sign - you may accept abuse just to stay doing it. Even if the job doesn’t abuse you, you will have days when you are sick of it (not might, you will!). There will be parts of your job that have to be done but you don’t want to do them.

In short I think putting career first is wrong. However it may well be that you don’t have a better option. Be open to a better option if you come across it, but searching for a worthwhile relationship is often not worth the cost. You have to open yourself up enough to get hurt before you can find out of it is a good relationship or not.

Remember you will die. In the meantime you need to eat, you need shelter. Most people find love is high on the things they want next. Also remember that the right answer for your will change over time.

If a relationship isn’t very important to you, you’re actually doing the right thing for your potential partner. Not everyone is meant to “pair up” with someone. If you’re happy and fulfilled right now, just keep doing what you’re doing. You always have the option to change things if you want to.

Depends on your priorities. Nothing inherently wrong with that.

I think part way into your post, you started leaning away from the question but I digress.

I haven’t dated in 2 years going 3 but that is simply because there’s too much going around me internally and externally to where I simply can’t afford a relationship. A relationship is starting to seem like a luxury of its own, in a way of like investing into it. If you don’t have anything in order in your life, why should you get into one? Because once you’re in a relationship, you are always spending in some form. Spending money or time or both, usually both.

Just try to avoid potential partners that want to date you because you’re succeeding in whatever career you pursue, because success can attract moochers and that’s something you don’t want that’ll bring things down. There are some people out there that do find people who’re focusing on careers or goals attractive and may want that since they’re also doing the same thing. Maybe that’s your type.