I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.

I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.

  • IWW4@lemmy.zip
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    4 months ago

    For women there are finite age limitations on giving birth.

    When adopting top end is age 60.

    With that said, I am pretty much 60, and I have raised a kid, I couldn’t imagine dealing with that shit again.

    I loved my kid, Trust me when I tell you raising a kid is so fucking overrated.

    On the 27-year-old son issue that won’t mean nothing that basically mean the 27 rule will act as an uncle for the child.

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      4 months ago

      For men there are age limitations too. He’s more likely to produce a child with birth defects and the mother is more likely to suffer from pre-eclampsia and give birth too early. Older fathers are just as much a liability as older mothers.