I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.
I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.
If you’re expected to die before your kid turns 30-35, you’re too old.
So if life expectancy of your husband (factoring in your genetics and family medical history) is, say 81 or older, then sure, go ahead.
As for your age (maternal age), it generally should not be older than 40, and optimally younder then 35, so you’re at the right age. (Because older women tend to have children with developmental issues, biologically speaking)
Um yea this is not optimal… my older brother is only like 5 years older and we already have a lot of problems. 👀
The childrens’ age gap seems like a non-issue to me. Older brother would just take on a sort of uncle role. I know several people with large gaps in their siblings ages, and while they don’t have the traditional sibling bond, they don’t harbor any ill will towards their siblings either.
Yeah, a 5-10 year gap might be the biggest danger zone. Too far to play together, too close to not both be “the kids”. And then it varies just by what kind of people they both turn out to be.
I have a gap with my sibling of about 9 years apart. We get along fine