I’m 31, my husband is 51, and lately I’ve been feeling some baby fever. For the record, kids aren’t a must for me, I’m genuinely happy with or without them, but I think it would be nice to experience that journey. My husband is hesitant, though. Even though he’s very healthy, active, and energetic, he feels like having a child in his 50s might be too late. He also already has a 27-year-old son, and he worries that the big age gap between siblings would feel strange.

I guess I’m just looking to hear what others think about this situation.

  • Paddzr@lemmy.world
    61·
    5 months ago
    1. By the time they turn 20, you’re 60. What kind of childhood can you provide if you’re older than that? It’s about THEM. The age is purely based on what you can provide them and for how many years.
    • pishadoot@sh.itjust.works
      6·
      5 months ago

      Hard disagree. Had GF with adopted parents that were in their 60s when she was a teen and they were amazing parents. Sure they didn’t go play tennis with her or whatever but they were way more put together, financially stable, and handled conflict well. Because they were more experienced. They didn’t relate to her as much on pop culture.

      The big downside in the age gap is that you’ll die earlier in their life.

      Also you have to consider that around 40 pregnancies get more dangerous for the mother, so I agree that it’s a pretty good cap for that reason, but not the age difference itself.