As weird as the title sounds, my family really dislikes me using Tuta and not Gmail. Is your family also like this?

“Come on, Sarah, can’t you just be normal and use Gmail like everyone?”

  • my mom, scolding me.
  • helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Tell her; “no mom, if some 30 year old man was tracking me, reading my mail, texts and tracked my location you’d be getting ready to murder him. Why should I let gmail get away with the same shit?”

  • Autonomous User@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    4 months ago
    • Never defend. Always make a good attack.
    • Never say privacy. Never get dragged into tech yapping. Always say control, power, scam and abuse.
    • Never lead with gains. Human care most about loss. Always focus on loss.

    Something like:

    Watching big tech gape my inbox was never normal but, if you’re into that, I’m not judging you.

  • vapeloki@lemmy.world
    1·
    4 months ago
    • it you would have WhatsApp, we could keep in contact
    • oh, come one, we have a Facebook Family group
    • can’t you just share a Google calendar with me
    • …
  • Twongo [she/her]@lemmy.ml
    1·
    4 months ago

    my mental health was questioned so there’s that.

    my explaination about surveillance capitalism and what possibilities corporations have to spy on us fell on deaf ears and raised concern. i got called “paranoid” and also “stupid”

    • Fushuan [he/him]@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      4 months ago

      My answer is that I have a degree in CS and I work on the field. I know what I’m talking about. I literally work in the massive data processing field (not tracking, bank data but still).

      “No, they are not listening to me through the microphone of my phone. They don’t need to, that’s the scary part.”

  • Lumidaub@feddit.orgEnglish
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    4 months ago

    Huh? What difference does it make to them…?

    Wait, thinking about it, is it because name at gmail is easier to remember for them? Because gmail is the “standard” in their minds?

    • cRazi_man@europe.pub
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      4 months ago

      Normies find it triggering if things take extra steps or aren’t proceeding in the normal way they expect.

      My family (and wife especially) get triggered…“why can’t we just be normal and use Netflix, why do we have to tolerate any buffering on your Jellyfin thing. What was the email address you use again? Why don’t you just use WhatsApp like everyone else, no one uses this Signal nonsense. I’m sending you photos on Google Photos or WhatsApp, why should I have to figure out adding them to you NAS drop folder. What is this MailBox nonsense, why don’t you just share your calendar from google calendar”.

      A lot of tech tools are social tools. Other people don’t want to think about this stuff. They don’t care about stuff that doesnt affect them. They don’t care about my FreshRSS feeds, that doesnt affect them. But they do care that I can’t send them photos on Google Photos.

  • thermogel@lemmy.ml
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    4 months ago

    I have found that even when people are conscious of the “technocratic & surveillance” state of the world, they still dont change their habits. Just like “this sucks” but they dont bother on looking for alternatives.

    Even when I tell them about E2EE services, or the fediverse, they’re like “that sounds awesome”, but they never try it. Once I had a friend try Pixelfed and they loved it! I was so happy hehe but it goes stale after a few days, since other friends didnt switch. But were both telling others to switch sometimes.

    My family uses Life360 for safety or emergencies, and I managed to switch them over to Paralino. It was all working seamlessly until they suddenly decided they wanted to go back, for whatever reason. I don’t know what it was, they wouldnt say, but it frustrates me that they would prefer giving out all out location info in rreal time to a company that has had many breaches and has sold such data, compared to a small one that can’t even access such data, and its just a few bucks. Idunno.