Not a parent.
Mine fought like banshees when they were young but are so close and friendly as adults. I didn’t do anything to make any of it happen as far as I can tell. I never understood why they fought so much, and they are so funny and love each other so much now.
By constantly modeling respectful good behavior and correcting them when they are rude or mean to each other.
I think two things that are common causes of sibling bad feelings are differences in treatment, and handling of sibling conflicts, both of which can create feelings of unfairness and resentment.
I don’t have prescriptions for those things. Kids are different and necessarily need to be treated differently. But one should be aware of how this can feel unfair to one sibling. And be aware of how your need to end conflicts and restore order can again wind up being unfair to one sibling.
I think the hardest thing is being able to see things from their points of view.
That’s the funny thing about kids. It’s the same with pets. The problem isn’t them, it’s you. You have to learn how to behave better so that they behave better
Yes, but there is no guarantee this will work.
Doing nothing returns a substancially more probable outcome of sibling rivalry/hatred.
Family sense, notion and belonging are taught.
Don’t make them compete for your respect and affection.
Strive for equality of treatment.
Growing up my sister and I didn’t get along when we were younger, she wanted to give me back to the hospital when I was born.
Over time we shared some similar interests, she played violin, I played cello. She pursued it to a master’s degree, I quit to have less divide attention on school which I also failed at.
My parents always gave us options for what we wanted to try and despite her getting more financially to cover those things, I knew I could have those things as well if I asked but I wanted them on my own.
By our early teens any anger was over and was got along for the rest of her life when she died of brain cancer at 42.
Love them both for who they are and never compare them.
What !? Siblings hating each other seems exceedingly rare in my personal experience 😅
High fences make good neighbors. Most of the really serious conflict between my sister and I was related to competition over use of shared resources like the family computer or TV. Perceived unequal treatment was another big one.
Why do you think siblings would hate each other? Giving them the mental and emotional tools to interact kindly and calmly with others will also ensure their reltionship is positive.
Make them unite in their hatred for you.
