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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Keep trying! It’ll get easier. I remember having similar issues. There was so much I wanted but I could barely afford the essentials on minimum wage. I still bought dumb shit and some of it I was glad I said fuck it and bought. But coming up with “qualifying questions” and sticking to them helped. And the more I said no to purchases, the easier it got. The number one question I would ask myself before I bought something is “will I actually use it?”

    Also consider places like thrift stores for household stuff at a cheaper price. Yard sales are also good but try to catch them on Friday evenings and Saturday mornings. And make a list of things you need. Then that way if you see a good sale or see something at the thrift store you can say “This is on my list of things I need/want, yes I can buy this.”

    Another thing you can do when online shopping, especially if it’s over like 20$ or something (you set that limit), is put it in your “cart” and wait 24 hours. That will stop impulse buys. If you see something at the store, tell yourself that you’ll sleep on it and if you really want it you’ll come back tomorrow and get it.

    I’m sure there are more/better tactics but these are what helped me. But yes, the way things are structured in our society everything is seeking to convince us we need all this shit by hyping it up or putting it on fake sales or and using tons of other psychology tactics to get us to buy. Try your best to ignore the hypes and commercials and delay before buying. By delaying it gives you a chance to get away from those tactics, look at the product again when those tactics are not immediately pressing, and it helps you make an objective decision. It’s hard at first but it gets easier each time you do it.












  • Working fast food jobs versus working a professional job. There’s a reason people work in fast food whether that be age, felony status, crap work history, education status (not always), or they are just shitty people.

    There is a general unprofessional and childish mentality working at those places that I thought was normal when I worked them. When I moved into corporate culture it was difficult for me for like 3-4 years and it took a long time for me to understand that it’s a different culture. You don’t say off color shit or fuck around. Which I am okay with. I don’t have to deal with casual sexual harassment, childish quitting displays, abuse, high school behavior, etc.

    There is still some gossip but it’s not hard to isolate yourself from it and people who do that shit typically don’t last that long.


  • I used to has Xmas after becoming an adult because what it stood for, for me, was a bunch of shit : capitalism, using a fake demi god to discipline your kids, and a zombie demi god it’s supposed to be dedicated to when we decorate trees which come from the religions that were stomped into hiding.

    But I started to realize that winter fucking sucks. It’s depressing as fuck. It made me realize that we need holidays in the winter to help us get through it. There is joy in company if you can look past minor shit and flaws of family, and if you can’t then there is the company of friends. Holidays are a reminder that we thrive best in communities and it’s a chance to reconnect.

    So whether you decide to celebrate that gathering by decorating a plastic tree or by having a hedonistic feast or even an orgy, do something for the holidays that mean something to you.





  • I used to have that fear when I was a kid living with family and my mom in particular was very nosey. I understand a nosey parent to make sure you kid isn’t into drugs, but she went way beyond that. She was also paranoid so she was convinced I was doing fucked up shit without any evidence.

    It took me a long time to get over that. I did have a friend who was rooting through a couple of my things and we stopped being friends not long after. As far as I know, no one else has gone through my stuff.

    The only time I’ve ever gone through anybody else’s stuff is to look through my mom’s drawers for things she stole and my ex’s phone after many years and other evidence that he was fucking around behind my back and I wanted to know for sure that he was. I hated doing it in both cases because I didn’t like it being done to me but felt that was the last option I had.

    So yeah, with psycho family, you have every right to feel that way. Just know that isn’t normal and that most people won’t do that.