THIS

Try to get this in writing, or document your day-to-day with this. Focus on the retaliation, the instances they tell you how you’re supposed to spend your money and maybe get coworkers to back you up and write that down.

The more clear evidence, the better. Lawyers love when you have a bunch of evidence in writing. Especially if it’s emails or similar directly from them that prove your case.

That makes perfect sense.

For me the most annoying thing is that no one is pure evil, neither is he. So it’s hard to just blame him and and be done with it. Things are always complicated. A lot of the time there’s no one to blame. Because that doesn’t help. Not him, but also not yourself.

One thing though: you said there will always be a place in your heart for him and that you will always support him. Please make sure you prioritize yourself. Don’t give him too much of your time and energy. If you are a friend of him, he is a friend of yours. It’s real easy for people to invest everything just for some “what if”.

Someone needs to think of you and if it’s not him, it has to be yourself. Things will become normal, but until then someone needs to watch out for you.

I had such a hard time trying to start off on mastodon. Finding the right accounts to follow, getting some basic filtering, no recommendations, …

That was very difficult and uncomfortably unintuitive for me. And I am a software engineer.

I can only imagine what hell that might be for a “normie”.

I love the fediverse and all it’s platforms, including mastodon, Lemmy, pixelfed, matrix, etc. but we still have a long way to go for people to adopt them, especially if you make it hard to get started.

I personally think the issue was never the recommendations or “content milling”. It was that there was no way to change it or turn it off.

I think the best way to make it more appealing is to put in the basics of other centralized platform but show users that it’s a choice, every time.

Registration? Enable OAuth with Google etc., but show users all of the options.

Recommendations? Use open source algorithms. Or models. On first login enable it and ask them if they want it to stay enabled, changed, or disabled.

Privacy? Turn off telemetry but tell them on first login they are free to turn it on in the settings to help with development.

Donations? Just like in boost for Lemmy, this should be the bottom-most option in the settings. Dessalines deserves the support.

I think the issue was never that a platform is capable of all the things lots of people don’t like, the issue were the dark patterns of opt out and making things hard to disable. Choice is powerful when it’s truly free and transparent.

That’s a lot.

It sounds like he only wants to be friends.

The things he is upset about are his issues. You are not his girlfriend, so you don’t need to address them because they don’t really concern him.

He is trying to set boundaries and it looks like he’s not good at it. It sounds like this is bad for both of you. But it looks like at this point there’s not gonna be a relationship.

The only thing you can do is find a way to move on. All the good things, but all the bad things as well will stop and things will be different, but there’s nothing really you can do. However what you two do together is up to you. If you need some time to process, tell him and take your time. If you think you can go back to being friends - try it, but be mindful this will be hard.

You are not your mistakes, and some of the things he said are his issues to deal with. Your body count? Sure he can be upset but that’s not on you to change. You told him the truth and the only thing he can do is accept it or break up and move on.

Right now it sounds like you two are not a great fit. He doesn’t value you enough to trust you, and you are trying to hold onto him even though he doesn’t trust you.

Maybe at some point things can be different but not right now and you need to have a life outside of him so you don’t get hung up on mind games.

Somewhere there’s someone who loves you for all you are but if it’s not him then that’s how it is. And if it is him, then there’s a lot of things he needs to learn before it might work. Don’t wait for that, you need to keep doing you for now.

Make music, perform music, make games, make movies, write small books and maybe draw pictures.

And then I would try out being a research attorney, being an EMT, a pilot, maybe working with NASA at some point and working for some government agency specializing in digital warfare.

People always assume if you had everything you would just sit at home and be lazy and never try anything. But from my experience you don’t do that shit just because you’re complacent, you do it because either you are way too stressed out to try out new stuff or you are in the middle of a depressive episode. Almost all people I know wouldn’t be able to be lazy for more than 2 weeks, they would start making something.

NGL the question and the projections read like they are two different posts.

why are (some) extroverts like this?

I sometimes do this too even though I’m very introverted. I do this because I want to feel useful with the experience I gained and it just feels like a waste sitting on some knowledge and not being able to do something with it.

It’s a really cool thing if you can help someone. And some people have such a need for this, either they completely forget they were very explicitly not asked, and some will ignore it, just in the hopes they get to contribute.

Funnily enough I get to see both sides, because I also sometimes get an answer from multiple people, so I’ve learned how to handle it to some degree.

The best thing to do is not to tell them to shut up, but to acknowledge it and then explicitly say “also wanna hear from [experienced] person as well on this though.”

Tbf “our CEO went off making hitler salutes, dismantling our government and issuing shady deals with rich people” is one hell of an excuse. Probably the best one yet for Tesla.

On a serious node, I feel bad for the engineers who came there to do something great and never got to follow through on it. There’s some geniuses working there that should get more deference.

Yeah I’ve come to accept that there’s an amount of money needed to get comfortable. But when you get there, any surplus will not bring any happiness and might even inspire egoism and jealousy. But there is a line.

Yeah this will populate information about DNA and genomes from you and relatives into their database.

This can be an issue for the following reasons:

• you will give up your privacy to a very substantial degree
• there’s a small chance you will give up safety of you or your relatives because investigators can access your DNA now

My first thoughts were the naked gun or Monty Python movies.

I feel so sorry for the onion.

*the three of us.

It’s about the dangers of misuse of AI too. That’s pretty on point I would think.

Keeper

Depending on your setup, YouTube will still fingerprint your browser and track your behavior, as is common practice with ad networks.

Your cookies and data might be cleared but as long as yt has any way to generate a unique identifier out of your browser preferences, it will identify you and start looking at your behavior / figuring out an algorithm.

Just fyi.

Phoria - saving us a riot

My comfort song :)

Also it’s very relaxing and I think that’s a good thing for my peers lol.

No you’re not. Everyone is different and as long as you don’t avoid relationships out of principle, it’s fine. But if that ever changes, stay open minded. Do what feels right.

2 pillow connoisseur here, it’s not perfect but it’s def better than being a 1 pillow andy.

Gotta mention Spiritbox. Courtney is one of the most celebrated modern metalcore singers.