• jqubed@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    If you’re falling in love with someone who’s “perfect” you’re probably falling in love with someone who only exists in your head and not the real person. That’s a disservice to everyone involved.

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      6 months ago

      Also, if your parents were abusive, be deeply skeptical of “love at first sight”.

      The most amazing connection I ever had with a partner led to the worst abuse I’ve ever experienced.

  • Count Regal Inkwell@pawb.social
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    6 months ago

    If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You’ll be happy you did.

    • Iapar@feddit.org
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      6 months ago

      I’m not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.

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    6 months ago

    Do NOT invite anyone into your home that you do not know. And do NOT save someone from eviction and have them live with you if you only barely know them.

    I just went through six months of hell with two freeloading pieces of shit who never cleaned up after themselves and almost never lifted a finger to help in the house — all while getting free room and board, free food, etc.

    My kid happened to be friends with a kid whose 64 year old mother (kid was adopted) got evicted and we knew them in passing for a good decade. We were the ONLY ones to help, despite them being a part of a church with hundreds of people.

    I now know exactly why no one helped them, and know exactly why they were evicted.

    Just don’t do it. It’s not worth the stress and the money.

    • AceSLive@lemmy.world
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      Seconded.

      I had a mate who didn’t speak with his parents, lost his job and left his partner.

      Took him in, rent free for 6 months. Got him on his feet, he got a new job and 6 months later he left… With my 10 year relationship. And my cat (but to be fair my ex was a vet so it made sense that she took him)

      I thought he was a friend.

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    6 months ago

    If you’re going to “chase your dreams,” it might be a good idea to first figure out whether they actually really are yours.

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      6 months ago

      Also research the downside first. Some “dream jobs” are marketed that way for a reason.

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      6 months ago

      Can’t confirm. I’ve had lucid dreams, where I’m aware that it’s a dream, but not in control.

      Then I started just pissing everywhere. And I could feel my sweatpants getting soaked. And then I shit myself. And in the dream I’m panicing because I know it’s happening in real life. I’m very aware that when I wake up my sweatpants will be piss soaked, and I have shat myself. I can FEEL it happening as it happens. Then I wake up. No shit. No piss. Totally dry, and I IMMEDIATELY need to get to a bathroom. Where I shit and piss in the toilet.

      And then I stand up, and there’s no shit or piss in the toilet. And I’m like “WTF??? Am I just groggy? What the hell is happening???”

      Then the toilet starts talking. “FEED ME YOUR TASTY POOPS!!!” And I’m like what the fuck is going on? Am I on drugs???" And this toilet is getting angry that I won’t shit in it’s mouth. Then it starts stomping around like the piano from Super Mario 64.

      Then I wake up, and IMMEDIATELY need to piss and shit. So I run to the toilet, and yell at the toilet “ARE YOU GOING TO DEMAND I SHIT IN YOUR MOUTH??? I KNOW YOUR TRICKS, TOILET!!!”

      And thats when I hear my neighbors laughing, because the walls are thin, it’s 3AM, and they now think I’m crazy.

      This has happened several times. I hope I never meet my neighbors.

        • Albbi@lemmy.ca
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          6 months ago

          Watch “Strange Brew” and let me know if you change your mind on that.

          Awesome Canadian movie.

          • Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.eeM
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            When that was first said, what came to mind was actually Gulliver’s Travels with Jack Black. Fires are typically not even weak to a firefighting hose, that’s why those firefighting games at Chuck E. Cheese are so hard. Firefighting is actually more difficult than that.

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    6 months ago

    If you’re being hailed as a hero in the US and you aren’t a politician…

    Run. Do not walk away, run. Society is absolving itself of caring for you after the inevitable sacrifice of your health and/or sanity.