• some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    7 days ago

    I hate talking small. I’m not good at it. It’s one of the reasons I have a limited number of profound friendships rather than being liked by everybody. I’m an introvert. I’m ok with that. My partner can chat when we see each other after work because when we’re talking about the kitties doing something cute or what we wanna have for dinner that’s not small talk. That’s talking about things with very low impact or consequences.

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      when we’re talking about the kitties doing something cute or what we wanna have for dinner that’s not small talk.

      What else do you imagine is part of “small talk”?

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        No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.

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          I already lack the energy required to try and explain how you’ve created an unnecessary division.

          Small talk is just talking about unimportant things, because it can be considered impolite to start digging into the core of stranger’s identity while you’re both waiting in line. Sounds to me like you’re putting your discomfort around strangers on small talk.

          I am also an introvert. I’ve just put effort into trying to continue conversations.

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            Eh, I don’t have the energy either. It’s very hot here today and I just walked home. It’s not as bad as you perceive, but I’m gonna go ahead and let it go.

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      talking about things with very low impact or consequences

      Isn’t that the definition of small talk?

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        No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.

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        No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.

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        No. Small talk is what you do with people who are unfamiliar. It’s not the bits you exchange with someone who is intimate. That’s just catching up. Small talk takes effort for an introvert (which I am). Catching up is just shooting the breeze.